I have been thinking a lot about this topic today as I spent sometime with people who are single. It seems to me that there is this idea in our culture that if we are single somehow that means that there is something wrong with us or that we are broken. Personally, I feel very privileged and find great joy in this time I have to be single and work on developing myself. I would venture to say that if we don't learn to accept ourselves exactly where we are and who we are, no change in status is going to fill that hole.
Finding Joy in every moment of life is vital to living a happy life. I believe we are placed here on earth to have joy. Some tend to think the grass is greener somewhere else. Well, the way I look at it is I only have RIGHT NOW. I can only live in the moment and I choose to embrace what God has given me right here and now.
The question was asked today when the last time we had felt true joy? Someone answered that she had felt Joy many years ago when a friend of hers had some good things happen to her.. another said she felt joy when a guy she liked asked her out. I try and find joy each day of my life. For instance, yesterday I felt a great amount of joy as I sat and meditated over God's love for me. To have the knowledge that God knows me individually and cares what happens to me, means everything to me. I find joy in knowing that God has my back. I know that may sound funny but it's true. I know as I have turned my life over to Him, He truly has protected me and blessed me greatly. This doesn't mean I haven't had my share of challenges, it just simply means that He has lead me through them.. lightened my load... carried my burdens.
I am truly grateful for this time in my life. I have a strong feeling that it won't be long that my life will be as it is right now. I am taking advantage of it and am acknowledging the joy.. the true joy.. in each moment as I reflect on my daily gratitudes. Just as we like to be acknowledged for those things we do for others, God wants to be acknowledged for the miracles He preforms in our lives. Open your eyes.... look for the good.. not only in life but in others and as you focus on finding those moments of Joy.. you will in turn be filled with more joy than you aught to be aloud to have. It's quite fun and exciting.
I know that whether or not I am married or single, I will find Joy in my journey. I wanted so badly today to speak up and say "Change the way you look at things.. and the things you look at change." I can't help but accept people for where they are. I sometimes just want to shake them and tell them there is a whole other life on the other side of their negative thinking. This is one of my purposes in life is to share the "Message of Hope."
ACT NOW: If you haven't yet started a gratitude journal, start one. This will help you focus on the positive things happening in your life rather than everything you don't have. The present is all we have and remember what you focus on expands and I don't know about you but I would prefer to have all the positive things in my life expand than those things I really don't want.