Tuesday, May 31, 2011

"Love" - It's as simple as that

All of us have times in life where we are challenged with showing love towards others or even loving ourselves. I have mentioned before that I write the word LOVE on my wrist everyday to remind me how important it is for me to love and accept all people.

So I start my day off with asking the question in my morning meditation and prayer.. "Who can I serve today?" This helps me set the stage and my focus for the day in looking for opportunities to serve others. It all comes from a space of Love and when those opportunities present themselves, I am grateful for them. As I take on more clients, I feel soo blessed to be in a place where I can help guide people through this process of healing from old wounds and giving them the tools necessary so that they learn to feel freedom from what's been holding them back.

I was reading in the scriptures the other day about the joy that people felt as they were in service to others. That's truly how I feel. To watch people build a greater understanding and love for themselves and others is just dang rewarding. My heart almost leaps out of my chest in excitement that they are starting to get it.

For me, opening my heart up in love is one of the greatest gifts I have received in the last couple of years. I almost can't imagine it getting any better but I know it will.

By the way... we talked a lot about this on our radio show today. You can go and listen to it by going to SHOW WITH TY BENNETT.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

"U R A Big Deal"

You know I never knew how important I was until a few years ago when I realized that if I didn't take care of me, I was no use to anyone else out there. I guess I always had that idea that if I threw myself under the bus and ran myself into the ground that that would somehow make me valuable to everyone. What I realized was it was killing my spiritually, physically and emotionally. I was dying a slow death. I finally woke up to the fact that I mattered when I got into recovery for a food addiction I have had since I was 8 years old. I have since released 130 lbs and am living a life full of light and love. I am FINALLY living this life that I always dreamt of but never thought was truly possible until now. I can't hardly explain the joy I feel now that I am living my truth and am able to share my life and my journey with the world. I have a very very clear message to people that they are a BIG DEAL.

When I bring up the fact that people are a big deal they seem to shrink down in their chair and put their head down. What is wrong with us that we wouldn't believe this about ourselves? Who convinced us that we are NOT important? Come on... this is not rocket science. We were all created unique and special in our own way and when we accept that about ourselves and truly go searching to find our true purpose it's amazing what we are able to find. Just today I met with a healer, a lady who helped me work through some things and she was in her power doing what it is that she loves. There is absolutely nothing that brings me more joy than to watch people doing what it is they were created to do. That only happens when people are wiling to take care of themselves and accept the fact that they are a BIG DEAL. It's true. Start looking within and find out who you really are and I think as time goes by you might be surprised with what you find. There is a beautiful human being in there that is just screaming to be let out.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

"All These Things Shall Give You Experience"

You know sometimes you don't know why certain things are happening in your life til time passes and you can look back and see clearly the big picture. It always amazes me how much of the last few years I have been carried through some really tough things and I also can see how it has all played a part of who I am today in making me as healthy as I am. I look back on relationships.. friendships.. hard times.. good times... as well as all the times I doubted myself and really.. doubted God and His Ultimate Power. Truly knowing that God is all Powerful.. . why would I ever doubt Him and His Glory. A song that has carried through some of my darkest night has been one by Jeff Berry Band called "Prayer." Here are the lyrics to the song.


Thou hast said to walk on water
But I stumble in the sand
Oh, to run and not grow weary
Jesus come and hold my hand
Promise me Thou won’t forsake me
For my life depends on Thee
Engrave it on my heart reminding
That Your truth has set me free
For I believe, yes I believe
Please help my unbelief
For I believe, yes I believe
Oh Lord,
Please help my unbelief
Thou art great and full of light
That no eye can yet unpeel
Please give to me only through your might
A heart that longs to kneel

I was talking to a friend of mine last night about what comes so naturally to me now and realizing just how far I have come. Nothing in life is easy ...but it is possible to have everything you want to have and more if you stay focused on the goal and take it one day at a time. God desires us to have the deepest desires of our hearts come true. It may not be in our time table but believe me, it will happen. As we learn to better create what we want in life... heal from past wounds and then stand in a place of acceptance, we will receive ALL of our hearts desires. This is what I am learning right now. Sometimes God remembers better than I do what I desire. Something will come up and I will say to myself 'oh.. that's right, I have always wanted to do that.' It's so funny to me.

Recently as I have been stepping into the public eye more and more I realize how I have been prepared for this my whole life. I had someone who has been watching me on Facebook say to me that he thought he knew who I was until he started seeing more more goofy side of me. When I decided to join forces with Christian Jensen in doing the Radio Show, something inside of me woke up. It's this funny side of me who likes to make people laugh. I have never been confident enough with who I am to step into that place but the more and more I do.... I LOVE IT. That is WHO I am. It's soo much fun to be comfortable in my skin. I have NEVER experienced this much peace around who I am before.

I have to say, I love when I am writing and I have my piano music on in the background and the peaceful feelings I feel as I write from my heart to yours. It's almost like I know each and everyone of you and can feel what you feel. I know the pain that you all experience at times, the doubt, the questioning of your worth, the fear around what the future holds, the desire to feel like you have to control everything in your life and if you don't it will spin out of control. All of these thoughts I have.. the difference with me these days is I am getting better at just letting go and letting God take these worries KNOWING I am doing His work and He will provide for me. I can't say it's always easy....and sometimes I have to remind myself that I am ok in the moment and to re frame my thoughts to stay in the present.

Another thing that has been on my mind is this concept of being right on the edge of something HUGE happening. I have talked to many people about this. There are several of us that feel like major success is right around the corner if we can all just hang on. I don't  know if it's the SHIFT that is occurring or what but many are feeling it. So the question comes up, how do you hang in there when things get really tight? Well.. what's worked for me is to do everything I can to stay in the moment and to not try and change what happened in my life or try and control the future. It's vital for me to be in gratitude and love for the very day and sometimes the moment I am currently living.

I love the many opportunities there are in life. I am experiencing soo much right now and I am soo grateful for every day that I get to live. I am learning to take action on things quicker and then at the same time take time for me and to find the balance in all of it. I am grateful for the people I am meeting and at the same time connecting with the fact that even though some of these celebrities and high profile people are well known they are no different than I or any of you are. They worry about life too. It's kind of funny that I don't know who many of them are.. but I kind of like it that way because then I just get to know them for who they are not what they have done. It's awesome!

Well.... I guess my message to you tonight is to allow yourself to be in the moment and know that everything you are experiencing is just part of your story. The less you fight that fact, the more you will enjoy and embrace life.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Just some thoughts

You know.. it's soo interesting to me to watch where my life is going and at the speed of which it is flying. Just a short 3 weeks ago I was chugging along.. growing my personal one on one coaching business, speaking career and beginning to develop some health programs for businesses and corporations when a guy named Christian Jensen asked me if we could meet. I wasn't expecting to get offered this opportunity of a life time to be a co-host of a world wide radio show (www.RainSocialRadio.com) only an hour after we had met. Anyone who knows me knows that I am one to take action. I didn't use to be that way but now I see an opportunity and I jump on it trusting that it will work out. It hasn't been easy.. but boy has it been worth it. I am meeting all kinds of people. I am meeting famous people and everyday ordinary people.. both have passions and messages they care to share with the world. When Christian first brought this idea of social media and life coaching to me I have to be honest with you I didn't see the big picture at the time. As we do 2 hours a night Monday through Friday, it's becoming very evident to me how important this show is to the world. We have tapped into something HUGE .. a platform really for so many people who are passionate about their messages and ideas and a way for them to get exposure to people from all over the world.

It just is amazing how God works in putting us two complete strangers together and watch how well we work together in making this radio show a success .. really a win win win for everyone. The people we are meeting is just mind boggling. The experiences they all have and the passion they share. We keep attracting people who have the same underlining message which is we need to first be in service to others in business and the money will follow.

There is a major shift happening in the universe and I am seeing that more and more people are experiencing and waking up to the reality that we need to get into a space of service and giving rather than of taking. I almost feel like a broken record sometimes but truth is truth and that is what we are all about.

So.. with everything going on, I am learning to still keep balance in my life. It's tough at this stage but I am still taking time to take care of me. I am the most important person in my life. As I joke around in saying ... "I'm kind of a BIG deal." It's true.. I am important and I do matter and if I don't take care of me and my needs, I can't be in service to others. It's true of each and everyone of you out there as well. I know it can seem like it's a bit selfish to feel that way but I believe it's true so get used to me saying it over and over again. I believe so much in it... I bought the domain name.. www.URaBigDeal.com. I don't have anything up there yet.. but soon I will be developing a whole program around that concept. Especially .... for women. We tend to always put ourselves last and that's gotta stop. We are important and we matter so get shifting that mindset and start taking care of yourself.

Sunday, May 15, 2011


Coaching is an interesting thing. It's actually pretty awesome. I have been working with people now for a year in a half helping them get clear on who they are and where they want to go in life. I don't know why it surprises me so much when people take my advice and have amazing results and shifts in their lives. I have to say ..I share with others what has worked for me as well as suggest certain things to them depending on what they are going through at any given time in their life. I had someone tell me today that she started using the surrender box and it has really helped her. I explained to her many people underestimate the power of something that seems all to simple and I know it works when I choose to use that tool. I don't just share these things with you for any gain of mine.. I share them because of the major shifts and transformation I have experienced over the past 3 years.

Listen.. we all need to be coached. We all need people to help us see things and give us suggestions to help steer us in the right direction. If you listen to any successful person out there.. they have multiple coaches all the time to help keep them centered. I have them too. It's not a sign of weakness, it's more or a matter of perspective. I am soo grateful for what I am learning.

As my whole Blog, speaking career and radio show are just exploding.. I can't help but give all the credit to God for the blessings He has brought my way. I know that I have a HUGE mission and that I have truly been called to this work. I can't say it's been an easy process but soooo worth it.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

"Connection is where it's at!"

HUGE week this week. I am sorry for not checkin in lately. I have been sooo busy with the radio show I haven't had time to do much writing. I have been shooting updated videos but I haven't had time as of yet to upload them and get them to facebook and YouTube. It will all happen as it should. I take my own advice which is accepting things as they are and not pushing anything. I did the best I could.. and then surrendered the rest to God.

I just spent a full 2 days at an outdoor Expo this weekend where I met some pretty amazing people who have lots of passions for what they do. Some of them were selling things that weren't even their real passion and after talking to them, we realized just how involved they are in other projects that we could help them in a variety of ways. Christian and I were intentional about being there. We knew we wanted to be in service to people there... and that is exactly what we did. I love that there is.. sooo much value that we bring to others when all we do is look for opportunities to show love and concern for them. It seemed like the more we gave.. the more was given to us. It's awesome.

I really truly believe that it was no accident that Christian and I were brought together to do this radio show. You couldn't have picked a more perfect match to host a show together in such an authentic real way. We both are soo passionate about helping people and we feel this is the perfect platform to allow people to get their word out.

In order for us to continue doing the show, we need sponsors. If you or anyone you know would like to advertise on our site, we are giving a ton of value in our different sponsor packages. We just partnered up with some people who will help us get millions of listeners to our show with in a week or so. We are really excited about it and know we get to help tons of people and that is what drives our passion to put the amount of work into what we are doing right now. If you are interested or know anyone who might be interested in getting "world wide" exposure to their message or business, please have them contact me directly at 801-427-0490. We are only taking a limited of sponsors so if this resonant with you .. let me know!!

Just to bring this full circle..about connecting.. Christian and I spent hours upon hours building relationships of trust with people.. connecting with them. This is VITAL. If you want to influence people.. you need to be willing to serve them. You serve others by showing interest in them and in what they are doing and then look for opportunities to truly serve them in an authentic way. Naturally .. the relationship grows... really it grows organically. I can't tell you how many times this weekend that the person I connected with got that look in their eye and shaking their head saying to me.. "I needed to meet you!" Yeah.. I KNOW. I say that because it happens to me multiple times a day sometimes. It's because I am connected and doing the work God wants me to do. I am learning to trust God that he will put the exact right people along my path when I need them and sure enough, he never lets me down. Doesn't mean I haven't doubted him though. It's tough sometimes.

Well.. to all my new friends out there.. I want you to know is what I am doing and where I am going in life is truly a calling. I am just one person and I get that God is all powerful and as long as I stay connected to Him, there is NOTHING He can't do. I am excited to watch how a lot of this HUGE stuff I have called to plays out. I thank you for all the support you have given me. I watch the stats of this blog and I know you are out there watching. I pray if something resonant with you.. whether it's me coaching you one on one.. or you want me to speak to a group that you have or want to be on the radio show or get involved.. please don't hesitate to contact me directly.

I will be doing a better job at blogging daily again as I work on keeping balance in my everyday life. I encourage you to do the same!!

ACT NOW: Look for opportunities to serve others and naturally you will connect with them

Friday, May 6, 2011

"Self Care and why it's VITAL to Your Success!"

Think about it. What good are we really to others when we are soo drained of all our energy? We believe that by throwing ourselves under the bus or putting our lives on hold for the sake of taking care of everyone else that somehow that makes us a hero or someone of value. What if you were valuable regardless of what you do for others. It just keeps coming up during conversations I am having lately. It's this DOING.. vs. BEING thing. When I think of people who I want to be like, I think of those people that have found a lot of peace and balance in their life. They take time for themselves not in a selfish way but more in a way of respect for who they are. I LOVE THAT. I always have loved that if I really think about it. I have admired people who run regularly or do meditation or read good books. All of which takes making the effort to take care of themselves.

So what does that have to do with Success? Well I think it has a lot to do with it. It seems to me those really successful people have time to vacation, have time to play, to read, to create and to do what's important to them. That to me is what I deem successful which is being at peace with life. I truly do seek daily for peace. If I find it, I am successful that day. I guess it comes from living in so much darkness and loneliness for so many years that has helped me appreciate that peaceful feeling but regardless I know if I do not take care of me, my life starts to spin out of control and I feel a lot of anxiety. I have to be honest in saying this if the first time in my life that I have taken the time for me and not felt like I was being selfish. I am important and so are you. As I say on our show, we are kind of a big deal. I say that because each and everyone of us is important and until you start to realize that, in my opinion it's hard to reach success.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

"Gratitude Shows Your Attitude"- Kem Jay

"Gratitude shows your Attitude"... this is what Kem Jay said last night as he called in to talk to Clay Egan on our radio show and I immediately had to write that down because I know how true that is. I love it when I come across others that have gotten the same truth through their own journey. Truth is truth. I know the more I have been grateful for what has come my way.. the higher I seem to sore. There is a vibration to gratitude. So... funny story.. this last Sunday when Christian and I went on KTalk radio he showed me his wrist where he had written with a pen the word  "LOVE." I thought.. 'what a great idea.' I am a firm believer that good uplifting words make a difference in how you feel so why not have it written on your wrist so I quickly did the same.

When Kem Jay called and mentioned 'Gratitude shows your Attitude', I quickly picked up my pen again and wrote the words "LOVE & GRATITUDE" on my wrist. I wondered what Clay was thinking when he watched me do that but that's ok.. it made sense to me. I have a quote that came to me a few years back that goes .."Gratitude is the acceptance of things as they are." I know I have quoted that several times but it's soo true. Time and time again I find myself wanting to change what is, rather than showing my gratitude for what is and the gift those moments give me. Although I have come a long way, I still have a ways to go with this.

Sometimes when we are in the thick of the thin it's hard to see the light through the forest but if we just hold on.. seek for answers... surrender to what is and know that at some point we will have a better understanding, we feel peace.

Many times too we want to try and protect others from challenges but what if their challenges are their greatest blessings in disguise? I do believe that. Look at our society right now. So many people are having to dig really really deep into their souls to find answers to things that once were trivial. It's a good thing. We all need to dig deep and figure out what our real purpose is here and then be grateful for those dark days where the real lessons of life are learned. Diamonds are made by massive amounts of pressure. Do we not at times also feel a lot of pressure and often it's not comfortable... but necessary. Just hang on and know that on the other side of it, is a beautiful life. Don't ever give up. Rise above the challenges of life.

In many ways I see that I was a diamond in the rough and had I not held on through those times where the pressure was intense.. I wouldn't be who I am today. I stand in such a grateful place with a lot of gratitude in my heart now. I can't say it enough.. HOLD ON.. sometimes it feels like for dear life. I promise you will thank me later.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

"BLAST OFF ... For Sure"

As I begin this adventure I am on with our new Radio Show, there are a few things I am learning along the way. One of them is that as I am stepping into this HUGE arena of exposure, I am realizing that my entire life experience has prepared me for this. I know people have said how important it is that we do what we love to do and success will follow but REALLY? I wasn't sure that was the case ... UNTIL NOW!! It's soo interesting to me that not even a week ago I had no idea I would be doing what I am doing although I have known for sometime that this wave of exposure was coming and that it was a matter of time til it hit. It took me surrendering myself and taking care of me in order to find my groove. Who would have thunk that turning inward would create massive amounts of healing and shifting?

I spent sometime this last weekend at a women's retreat where I was away from all media, internet, cell phone etc. All I had was me and nature and a few other women who also were looking to unplug from the world and intentionally plugging into their souls. I know I was suppose to be there. I know that the people I met, the experiences I had and the connection I made with God was in perfect harmony for me. I almost didn't go. I actually had already paid to attend another conference but at 2 am the night before the retreat I got the prompting to sign up and just go.... so after only getting an hour and a half of sleep that night I drove 3 hours up to Logan Canyon... to truly unplug.

As soon as I got out of the canyon on Saturday at 10:30pm I started calling my co-host of the radio show and suggested that we have Johnny K (www.jhonnyk.com) do a little intro sound bite for our show and funny thing was.... Christian said to me, "HANDLED!" They had already done it the day before. How do these sorts of things happen so quickly? It's almost too good to be true. I guess the only way to make sense of it all is to say it's a "God Thing." I love God things. When we are doing what we are suppose to, everything just works out.

Well.... we have some amazing guests coming on the show in the coming weeks. We are only 2 days into running our show and already people are clamoring to be guests and wanting to get involved in what we are doing. It's just amazing to watch.

As for me personally, I am excited and at the same time am holding on for dear life. This will be fun knowing it will take work but bring it on.. it's fun work. It's me being me helping others be them.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

World Wide Radio Show - 1st Night

Man.. I have to say, I was driving as fast as I could without being unsafe and made it just as we begun our first World Wide Radio Show Premier. Emotions were high and I was saying the serenity prayer multiple times during the 30 minute drive to Draper where Christian Jensen and Johnny K were waiting oh so patiently for me.

What an incredible last week this has been. I met with Christian Jensen, who is my co-host of our new Radio Show, in person, just last Wednesday and within a couple of hours he  had the logo complete, website up and our facebook fan page going. It was like lightening in a bottle for me. What an amazing guy. I don't know if I have ever felt things move at that kind of speed before. Many times it takes month and months of hard work for people to get that all accomplished and I happen to now be in business with such a talented guy. I love how God works. This whole idea of us working together was a God thing. We still don't even know each other well.. other than we both feel very strongly that we are a perfect fit for the massive amount of value we are going to bring to people world wide through this show.

Tonight's show did NOT go perfectly for the first half an hour and sure enough it was perfect. Really .. it was perfect in the sense that.. that is just like life. When things don't go the way we want them to, what do most of us do? We give up.. we kick ourselves and shake our heads and then we flush our dreams and ideas down the toilet. Dang it if I was going to let that happen. So after about a half an hour of pure frustration, we pulled it together and carried on. I was soo proud of Christian for shifting into a place where we could continue and roll with the punches or as he says it take the bull by its horns. I agree, sometimes that is what you gotta do with life.

So.. we made it through our first run and for the most part it was awesome. I LOVE the energy we have together and how we compliment each other during the conversation. That's what makes it so interesting. We are discovering each other as well as sharing what we both do best with not only those who come on the show but also the listeners.

What happened after the show was a literal miracle to say the least. We really got to see the talents and abilities of Johnny K as he worked his magic and did some energy healing on both of us. What an amazing guy! Let me tell you, I just sat there in AAHHH watching him do his thing. We ended up the night with him serving us when all we wanted to do is serve and help him. THIS IS WHAT THE RADIO SHOW IS ALL ABOUT.

We will be bringing on some very high profile names as well as the average every day people who have a message and we want to help them along their path.. no matter where they are on that path to better their life as well as provide them tools to help get their message or ideas out there. It's all one big WIN WIN WIN. That's how we role.

So tune in from 7-9pm Monday - Friday to listen to who we have on next and what advice we give them in helping them with their own business using social media. I am looking forward to working each night with Christian and really learning for myself from the EXPERT himself. How lucky am I? If you miss our LIVE show, you will be able to download the show and listen to it later. Please, feel free to comment and give us feedback. We are totally open to it.

We bring you practical everyday fundamental principles to use when it comes to Social Media coming from the EXPERT himself.

Go to http://www.rainsocialradio.com/ and see who we have lined up for upcoming shows.

If you would like to be a guest on the show feel free to email us at RainSocialRadio@gmail.com.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

What a weekend!!

Sorry for not writing or the last 4 days. I have been away up in the mountain without cell phones and internet to blog. It was good for me to totally unplug and take care of me. It was a nice way for me to take time grounding me in life. Isn't that what we need every once in awhile. I know it was a perfect weekend. I decided to go last minute to a women's retreat called www.heartofawoman.net. It wall all about connecting with God and seeking for God to teach you what our value is. We often times look to others to validate us or to get our approval an this weekend if there was any ONE huge take away was that I am doing just fine and that God has my back and that I need to trust him more.

I am working on uploading some video blogs but I will do that tomorrow. As always, don't forget who you are and how important you are to this world. Take the time to do your own investigation into what makes your heart sing. This weekend I got very very clear that being in nature breathes life into my soul and that I need to take more time to do that. I will write more about what I learned tomorrow so stay tuned.

Also tomorrow is a BIG DAY! It's the start of a 2 hour radio show each day called. www.RainSocialRadio.com where Christian Jensen and I will be co-hosting talking about the importance of connecting with people through social media. We will be talking to some very high  profile people about what they do as well as giving them practical advice as to what they can do to improve how they interact with others through it. Get dialed in and ready to see some pretty big names come through our airwaves. Our show is creating a MASSIVE amount of value and you won't want to miss it. Tune in tomorrow night 7 pm MST and for 2 hours while we interview JohnnyK, who is a singer/songwriter.