"Men NEED women to LOVE THEMSELVES!"

Think it doesn't matter how you feel about yourself women.. THINK AGAIN! I proposed the question on Facebook the other day asking men how important it is that women in their lives love themselves. I got immediate reaction.. in private of course through Private messages as well as chats. This is a HUGE deal for Men. I can't tell you how many men have come to me and told me how much this has affected them and many times was a huge factor in their divorce.

What is it about us women that doesn't accept and love ourselves? I have to admit that I struggled a lot with this very problem while I was married too. My former husband would tell me I was beautiful and I would just throw his comments to the curb. I also remember my old boss giving me praise for all the hard work I was doing and every single time I would down play it or minimize the comments. I can't say I thought much of myself back then. Although if I didn't get the praise, I also became resentful. I would often ask repetitively to my former husband why he didn't show more affection towards me or tell me he loved me more. It was almost like I had a hole in my soul that never could get filled. I remember him telling me that even if he did compliment me, it never was enough. Ever feel like you are always asking .. and asking.. and never getting enough to feel fulfilled? As many of you know, I have come a long way. Being in the relationship I am now, I am soo grateful to know that I don't NEED his affection, his praise or acceptance, although it's nice. It's a totally different way of living. I am here to tell you that you CAN recover from this hole in your soul. You CAN get to the point where you KNOW deep inside of you your value whether anyone else ever tells you so. I found it by going straight to GOD. He is ultimately the only one who can truly validate me.

It is really hard on men to watch their women whom they love very much.. not love themselves. They keep asking me how they can get their ex wives involved with me or their wives without hurting their feelings. I don't have an answer to that other than, someone has to want to want help and be ready to begin the journey of loving themselves in order to make the necessary shifts.

I am developing content on a program called "Falling in Love with yourself, one body part at a time." I woke up the other day quite early with my mind racing with content around this subject. I couldn't fall back to sleep so I got writing. I couldn't help but think what a difference our lives would be like if we really truly learned to fall in love with ourselves. I am not talking about in a selfish way.. I am talking in a very authentic appreciative way. If you feel you are ready to make that journey, let me know. I will be introducing some online communities here soon and some other programs to help you along the way.

"There is something brewing in the UNIVERSE for sure!"

As I walked away for the last time from a job that I held for 6 1/2 years last year, I couldn't help to feel a bit of trepidation wondering if I had lost my mind. I had been a property manager over a large apartment complex working with college age kids and had very much enjoyed many aspects and at the same time I have to admit it was one of the most challenging jobs I had ever experienced at the same time. I grew a ton, personal and professionally and was grateful for every moment of it.

At the time, I had just recently got a divorce, hit my goal weight and of course felt the distinct message that it was finally time for me to walk away from my very stable income to jump into a world of uncertainty. Although I felt a great amount of encouragement and faith, there was this feeling that everything was going to be ok. I guess you have to have known me to know what a HUGE risk and leap of faith this was for me.  So I began my walk down life where I started to connect with all these like minded people. I would attend conference after conference meeting more and more people who felt like they had been called to some higher purpose in life to help others. You mean I wasn't the only one? It astounded me as day in and day out I kept meeting more and more people who felt exactly as I did. I started seeing a pattern of how God speaks to me as well to many others whom I was meeting. It's not a quiet little voice of some sorts.. it's more like a HUGE SHOVE. Yeah.. that's right, a force to be recon with. As I started to contemplate my departure from my former marriage, life and job, it almost felt like I literally had NO CHOICE to stay where I was. It almost felt like I was bursting at my pant seems to get out of what I was doing at the time and step into a whole new pair of pants. Pants I had never thought I could or would fit into. These are the BIG GIRL PANTS.

As scary as that has seemed at times, I also am in such gratitude for the support not only God has given me but the people he has put into my life to help me along the way. It was almost like He called me to this work of helping and inspiring others... and then threw all these tools, inspiration, people... trainings in my way to show me the way. I can't say it's always been easy but God has provided me exactly what I have needed at the exact time I needed it.

So, the point is, I am NOT alone. I am not the only one who has walked away from a stable job to pursue this dream of inspiring others. I am not the only one out there that feels this force shoving me into the healing world. I am not the only one who has this message to share that WE MATTER. I am not the only one who has been given gifts to help guide people into stepping into the light and waking up.

It's awesome to see the gathering happen. There is a literal gathering that is happening on this planet. If you don't see it, start looking for it. It's a matter of time that we start healing this world, one soul at time.... one family at a time.. one community at a time. Be open to what God has to teach you because you never know when it will be your time when he calls you to this work of reaching out and lifting someone else.

"Knowledge is NOT power. Knowledge put into ACTION is Power on SPEED!"

We all love to say "I KNOW!" But do we really? Know what? If you aren't living it, how can you possibly think you know it let alone believe it. I think back of how many times in my life that I have gotten to a point where I think I know something only to look at my results to see that I am missing something. For instance, someone might say to me.. "Becky, it's really vital that you get your 8 hours of sleep a night to be healthy." This is something I have struggled with for quite some time. My common answer to them is. "I know.. I know!" If I really knew, I would be doing it. How many times do we all do that? We all know it would be better for us to eat healthy, take better care of ourselves and put ourselves first but how many of us actually do it and what stops us from doing those things that we know better? Well, that is a loaded question.

For me it all came down to falling in love with myself and learning how important I am to me. Most people who have struggled with weight issues or been on diets their entire life.. up and down and up and down are EXPERTS at what we should or shouldn't be eating. I remember once being in the gym after many years of working with all kinds of different personal trainers telling a friend of mine that I would be an amazing personal trainer but who in the heck would listen to me. I was well over 100 lbs overweight. I could also tell you all the different diets out there.. what you should be eating, how much as well as what NOT to do .. so why wasn't I doing it? Back then, I remember wondering the same thing. What was stopping me? Why was this losing weight so dang hard and why does it sound so easy but so dang hard?

I get the question all the time.. "What was the defining moment when you decided enough was enough?" It wasn't just one moment. It was a series of events that brought me to the point where I was ready. It took one small decision or step in the right direction and then just staying the course one day at a time til I got to where I am today.

Knowledge is just knowledge until you put it into ACTION. That is why I say ... A.C.T. = Action Creates Transformation. It was once said by someone "God can't drive a parked car!" It's true. You have to choose to get in the car turn it on.... and TAKE YOUR DARN FOOT OFF THE BRAKE in order to get moving. The problem is so many of us allow all our fears and doubts as well as past failures to keep us from moving forward. I love to think of that as us sitting in the car with your foot on that brake and your hand with the emergency brake pulled back as far as it can go. It's so silly what we do. I know when I took a HUGE step back and looked at what I was doing to myself.. no wonder I was stuck. No wonder I couldn't move forward and create different results. If you find yourself in the same place than take a look at those areas in your life where you have your foot on the brake and TRUST God to show you the HOW of letting go. Once you move that car, even a little tiny bit, God now can help. Get into action.. decide right this very moment to get into action and to trust. Believe me it's soo much easier than you think. Believe in yourself... I believe in you. Let me know how it goes.

"Your RESULTS in life are a direct reflection of your Beliefs!" What beliefs are holding you back?

Ever wondered how much your self talk (inner dialogue) really affects your outside world and your results? Well, studies have shown what you believe has a DIRECT affect on your results. I will show you. This is not new and many people teach in all kinds of different ways but this is what resonates for me.

So say your RESULT that you are not happy with is being overweight.

RESULT = Being overweight   

ACTIONS = Over eat, don't eat, Eat unhealthy Foods, don't exercise, Isolates 

FEELINGS = Discouraged, lonely, stressed, hopelessness, self pity, fear

BELIEFS = "I am not good enough"  or "I'll never succeed" or "Losing Weight is HARD"

Can you see how when you have an underlining belief of "Losing weight is HARD" that you are creating the very result of making losing weight difficult by your belief? People that have positive results, think differently .. act differently have different feelings and most importantly have completely different beliefs.

Now, for me when I changed my core belief around weight loss it TOTALLY changed my results. So let me take you through the same exact equation using a healthy positive belief.

 RESULTS = Healthy Body, Mind and Soul

ACTIONS= Exercise, Eat Healthy foods, Meditate, Mindful of themselves and their bodies, Productive, Organized, Peaceful

FEELINGS = Joy, Fulfilled, Peace, Inspired, Contentment, Passion, 

BELIEF = "I am of Great Value" or "I Matter"or "I am Enough" or "I am POWERFUL"

So to answer the question, 'Do our beliefs dictate our results in our lives?'... ABSOLUTELY! If you don't believe it, take any result in your life and plug it in this equation and check it out.  Work this formula for things you are experiencing in your life and you will find that these faulty core beliefs are at the very root of the problem and when you choose to change those beliefs, you change your results. I have seen this happen several times over in my own life. Again this is no destination, it's just a matter of getting to the very core.. choosing to shift the belief and then watch how your results shift. There is no right or wrong with this. We all have beliefs that are causing us to get undesirable results. We pick them up along the way in life. It's just a matter of being willing to do the work and then watching the miracles to happen and you begin to experience great RESULTS. 

"Attitude is EVERYTHING"

So tonight as I was leaving a Doterra Oil event, I was explaining to a friend of mine a few real challenges I am experiencing right now and she turned to me and said, "And you have a smile on your face." I got thinking. You know just as I wrote last time on the fact that I create my own life, it goes for my attitude as well.

I could be home crying and cursing God for some of the greatest challenges I have ever experienced but instead I show my gratitude for each moment in the way I choose to live my life. It's really your choice. I guess the one thing that keeps me going each day is that I know that everything in life has a purpose and how I choose to live it will determine whether or not I am living in Hell or Heaven.

I can't tell you just how incredibly grateful I am for the peace I have felt the last week. I live for that peace... even when everything seems to be crashing all around me. I am in the process of writing a blog about the struggles I have had with anxiety and how I have used essential oils in working through them. I am a huge believer in using more natural ways .. some may say alternative ways to helping me through life's challenges.

‎"Hold on, be patient for just a tiny bit longer. It's almost here.  Take a deep

breath and believe!" - Dawni  Christensen

So my challenge to you tonight.. as I sit here swinging on my porch, listening to beautiful music and hearing the beautiful sound of crickets is to check your attitude and if you find that it may be time for an adjustment just decide to adjust. It comes down to a conscious decision. Decide RIGHT NOW to choose peace over war and you will find the necessary balance you are looking for. God desires for you to feel peace. It's His heavenly way of giving you a huge HUG & KISS. Well.. at least that is how I see it. You are SOOO worth the God Kiss so SHIFT and create a whole new attitude if you need to.

"I Create my Life.. My Life Doesn't Create Me!"

How many times in life do we think we are just victims of our circumstances? I have learned through the school of hard knocks that this is NOT true. I truly am the creator of my own life. I know I have written on this but it's true. When I have taken the time to plan my food, my day, my activities out, I get soo much more out of life. The days that I allow take over me... I always seem to ask myself the question .."Where did the day go?" So for me something that has worked extremely good is that if I know I am going to be gone all day away from my home, that I prepare and pack all my food and carry it with me. This way I spend about 15-20 minutes preparing it and then I am done for the day... I don't have to ever think about it again. Back in the good old days I would spend almost my entire day thinking what I was going to eat, how much and where .. oh and don't forget all the shame rockin around in my head about what others would think of me as I ate certain foods. Now I prepare.. carry it with me.. and then just EAT IT. Oh.. and by the way, I LOVE my food. For those of you out there that know me personally and get the chance to be around me when I eat my food.. I am always doing the "YUMMY" sound while eating. I never thought healthy food tasted so good til I started eating it on a regular basis. Healthy food doesn't have to be boring. I couldn't eat like this if it didn't taste good.

So I was a guest on a radio show today where we talked about this very point in how important it is to live life on purpose and prepare. I can't stress enough what a difference this has made for me in my own life. We have been conditioned to think living a healthy life or eating well is HARD. STOP IT.. .. I am here to tell you otherwise. It's as easy or as hard as you want to make it. I remember for years me having that belief that losing weight was hard. Yes it takes work and I am not going to lie about that.. but it's NOT HARD. It takes living life one day at a time and making one small healthy decision at a time then another .. then another... and eventually you make it to the place you want to be.

I am not one that tells you that there is some grandiose destination... but I will tell you that as you do make those steps in the right direction, there is a TON of peace and balance that is waiting for you. Choose to create your life... and don't fall prey to the idea that you have to deal with what life gives you. STAND UP and take charge. Just as anything in life needs a director, be the director and create the life you want one moment at a time.

"Life...PEACE be unto You!"

The ebb and flows of life are quite interesting to watch. I look back on my own life and what has happened in the last year in a half and I am just amazed at where I have come from, where I am now and where I am headed. Do you ever ask the question, "What's NEXT?" I ask that all the time. Even though I am not big on trying to predict the future I do feel very strongly that there are things on this earth I am to learn and then share with billions of people.

I was writing an email to a friend of mine today expressing to her this feeling that I have had for quite sometime but I KNOW I wasn't just placed on this planet at this time to just exist. I KNOW I have certain things I am here to do. Certain people's lives to touch and inspire and with that being said, I know it's not about me. As more and more people are awakening to this universal calling, we are gaining strength in numbers to do God's work. People need healing. What I have gotten lately is that I have had to literally walk through my own hell first in order to really KNOW first hand how to help and lift others. The greatest teachers are those who teach from experience... and as tough as life has been at times, I also just keep telling myself that it's all part of my story. Every moment, thought and experience holds with it an energy which I draw on frequently to connect with others. Keeping that kind of perspective has kept me with my chin up and my body in motion. Yes, there are times when I want to give up, but then I step back and remember the eternal perspective of things and know that as I draw on the strength of the Lord, I am on His errand and with Him, nothing is impossible.

We all have a purpose and a mission to accomplish here. It's our choice to wake up to it.. search it out.. and ask the right questions to find direction. This process for me has taken me to my knees multiple times. It's not been an easy thing for me. I have searched, I have pleaded with the Lord, I have fasted and prayed and have sought out advice from many to find what I would call my TRUE NORTH. Ultimately though the only true source of truth is from God. I can find peace through Him. I am the one living with blinders on .... He sees the whole picture. He knows what I need to learn and how I need to learn it. I am sure it is hard on Him at times to see me struggle but knowing the end from the beginning He has the knowledge that I will be ok. He sends me angels, daily miracles and impressions to help guide me through this life.

So .. if you find yourself at times wondering. You are NOT alone! Know it's a matter of time if you are willing to put forth the effort to search and be willing to have your ears open to God's message and purpose for you. More than anything I seek to have PEACE in my life. I seek to help others feel peace from whatever it is they struggle with. Peace to me is being one with God and that is where I choose to be in this very moment.

TV Show Studio 5 Segment

ACTION = "The doing of SOMETHING"

Yesterday I was a guest host of a radio show that I do each month and in the middle of the show I looked over and saw a dictionary so I looked up the word ACTION. Wow... I think how simple the definition was but how difficult we make it at times to get into action. Think about it...."the doing of SOMETHING." Isn't it ironic how simple that is.

People ask me all the time what the defining moment was for me to get the results I did of releasing 130 lbs. I have to say it's the very fact that I made one SMALL step in the right direction that caused me to head down a path that has lead to a life full of peace and joy. It doesn't mean I am immune to difficulties but overall I am grateful for the positive outlook I have on life now because of the changes I have experienced in my life.

So many of you out there may be asking yourself, 'How do I make that kind of shift for myself and why when I try and I feel like I keep failing?' Let me tell you that if you would just take a step back and be patient with yourself.. make a small step and decision to move in a positive direction and then everyday continue to take another small step, I promise you, you will experience great changes for the good. I know many of you have felt a lot of frustration and disappointment around weight loss or making necessary changes in your life. If I were right there sitting in front of you, I would ask you the question I ask everyone as I am coaching them one on one which is .."If there is ONE thing you can do that would help you live a healthier life right now, what would it be?" Think about it for yourself. What is the first thing that comes into your mind? Create a plan, find someone you can be accountable to and then MOVE one small step in the right direction. I cannot stress enough how important this is.

I created a PDF file of action steps called... "Key ACTION STEPS to Getting Lasting Results" and you can download it at www.CreatingHealthyLiving.com. These are tangible ACTION STEPS that you can do to overcome and deal with things that are holding you back from what you really want in life. 


I just launched my website www.CreatingHealthyLiving.com where you will find my different packages that I offer for people who are wanting to work with me. I made if possible for everyone to take advantage of what I have to offer. For me personally, the greatest value is working with me one on one as I realized for my own success, I needed to work directly with someone where I could be accountable to and to work through those key issues that were holding me back from lasting results. 


If you NEVER take ACTION in a positive direction, you will NEVER get the positive results you are looking for. It's easier than you think and I am here to help you in such a loving way to get there.